UPDATE ON SENATE BILL 0344 “Lactation Accommodation in Airports”

12 May

On Wednesday, May 13, 2015 at 8:30 a.m., the Human Services Committee will hold a hearing on SB0344 “Lactation Accommodation in Airports” in Stratton Building Room C-1 in Springfield, IL. Please contact the members of the Human Services Committee by email and telephone and ask them to support SB344. Their contact information is included below. A sample email template is also included, but your personal stories and handwritten notes are most effective.

Illinois Senate bill SB0344 “Lactation Accommodation in Airports” is making its way through the Illinois General Assembly. It was voted on and passed by the Illinois Senate on April 22, 2015. The bill is now in the Illinois House of Representatives. Chief House sponsors are Rep. Camille Y. Lilly, Rep. Emanuel Chris Welch, Rep. Elgie R. Sims Jr., and Rep. Jehan A. Gordon-Booth.

Human Services Committee – Members (99th General Assembly)

Chairperson : Robyn Gabel- staterepgabel@robyngabel.com (217) 782-8052 (D)
Vice-Chairperson : Litesa E. Wallace- Litesa@StateRepWallace.com (217) 782-3167 (D)
Republican Spokesperson : Patricia R. Bellock- (217) 782-1448 (R)
Member: Carol Ammons- Assistance@StateRepCarolAmmons.com (217) 558-1009 (D)
Member: Jaime M. Andrade, Jr.- staterep40@gmail.com (217) 782-8117 (D)
Member: Kelly M. Cassidy- repcassidy@gmail.com (217) 782-8088 (D)
Member: Tom Demmer- demmer@ilhousegop.org (217) 782-0535 (R)
Member: Laura Fine- repfine@gmail.com (217) 782-4194 (D)
Member: Mary E. Flowers- maryeflowers@ilga.gov (217) 782-4207 (D)
Member: Norine Hammond- rephammond@macomb.com (217) 782-0416 (R)
Member: Sheri L Jesiel-jesiel@ilhousegop.org (217) 782-8151 (R)
Member: Cynthia Soto-4repsoto@gmail.com (217) 782-0150 (D)
Member: Brian W. Stewart- repstewart@gmail.com (217) 782-8186 (R)
Member: Michael Unes- repunes@gmail.com (217) 782-8186 (R)

Sample email–

RE: SB 0344- “Lactation Accommodation in Airports”

Dear Representative :

Please vote to support SB 0344 “Lactation Accommodation in Airports” and help this bill make its way through the Illinois General Assembly.

O’Hare International Airport (O’Hare) and other Illinois airports do not have designated lactation rooms for breastfeeding mothers. Midway Airport recently opened a Mother’s Room on Concourse C. There should be additional lactation areas in each airport terminal and each concourse. At a minimum, a comfortable space for breastfeeding mothers should include an electrical outlet, a sink, and wash area.

Currently, O’Hare airport asks mothers to feed their children in the restroom or to contact Travelers Aid in Terminal 2 to arrange a private room to pump or breastfeed. O’Hare Airport is planning to open one Mother’s Room during the summer of 2015, and that is a step in the right direction. This legislation will ensure that airports accommodate breastfeeding mothers and young families looking to feed their babies.

One of the greatest struggles for breastfeeding mothers is to have our voices heard and accommodations met in order to express milk and feed our children in public places. Women have lobbied and fought for years to establish lactation rooms in their places of employment and public facilities. Only recently have states begun to pass laws that help ensure that mothers have a private place to nurse their children and pump breast milk (if they choose to do so in private).

This campaign seeks to make Illinois airports nursing friendly and to build public accommodation for breastfeeding mothers. This grassroots petition started just two months ago and the Illinois Senate swiftly passed this bill on April 23, 2015. California passed similar legislation last year. Illinois should do the same.

We hope you will listen to our collective voices and vote YES to SB 0344 “Lactation Accommodation in Airports”.

Thank you for your support.

Sincerely,

 

Want more info on this topic??? 
Establish Lactation Rooms in Illinois Airports Petition: https://www.change.org/p/mayor-rahm-emanuel-and-the-city-of-chicago-department-of-aviation-establish-lactation-rooms-in-illinois-airports
Fly and Feed facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/2015flyandfeed
Breastfeed Chicago: https://breastfeedchicago.wordpress.com/
Rep. Duckworth OpEd- Airports fail to accommodate breastfeeding mothers: http://chicago.suntimes.com/other-views/7/71/586506/airports-fail-accommodate-breastfeeding-mothers

Thank you, O’Hare!

30 Apr

Have you heard the news? O’Hare will be opening up a Mothers’ Room this summer!

Go thank them! Tweet to @fly2ohare and let them know that you appreciate their support of breastfeeding mamas! And tag us, too: @BFChgo

Whoot! Whoot! Katrina does it again!!

2 Apr

We are so proud of our Executive Director and Founder, Katrina Pavlik! She is the force that drives us all and with pieces like this, that get published in the Trib – you can see why. Read it – it’s good!

See the Op-Ed here:  http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/opinion/commentary/ct-breastfeeding-mommy-wars-chicago-perspec-0402-jm-20150401-story.html

Tell us what you thought of this piece. What have you done to advocate for yourself as a mom?

Sweet! We’re in the paper today!

28 Mar

Just a quick head’s up that Breastfeed Chicago responded to an opinion piece in the Chicago Tribune, and it got published! We just love seeing our name in print. That’s probably why we have a blog.

See the whole thing here: http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/opinion/letters/chi-illinois-should-shake-the-breastfeeding-stimga-20150327-story.html (Nevermind that “stigma” is spelled wrong – not our fault!)

Do you have ideas on how we can make Chicago a more breastfeeding-friendly place for moms? Please share with us!

Apply for Small Grants to Support Your Breastfeeding Community!

27 Mar

Way back in November, we held a t-shirt design contest to raise money for our Leadership Development Project. Revolution Altrui, a t-shirt printing company, made our dream into reality. In four months, we were able to raise $563 from the sales of the shirts! Thank you, all!

Now it’s time to give all the money back to worthy causes – yours! Until we run out of funds, we’ll be giving away small grants to Breasfeed Chicago members who have a plan for making breastfeeding better in their community.

Who can apply?

Any member of the Breastfeed Chicago Facebook group.

What can I use the money for?

Any initiative that encourages breastfeeding in your community.

No, really, what can I use it for?

Here are a couple of our ideas, but we trust you’ll have even better ones:

  • Pay for a breastfeeding training/certification so you can help other moms
  • Buy a book for your favorite doctor (Medications and Mothers’ Milk, for example)
  • Pay for a breastfeeding conference (like CABC‘s in the fall)
  • Stock your local breastfeeding support group’s library with some fun books
  • Buy supplies to show the size of babies’ stomachs for the nurses at your local hospital (example)

How much can I ask for?

Depends. Funds are limited, so you’ll need to really make a case for a grant of over $50. We really like matching grants, so if you and/or your friends can match the funds you’re asking for, all the better!

What’s the catch?

Nothing in this life is free. You get money, you gotta do something for us in return. Take pictures of yourself delivering the goods and post about it OR write a post for our blog about your experience OR volunteer to be a moderator of our group OR volunteer for our World Breastfeeding Week event… the options are limitless.

Apply here:

I AM enough

2 Mar

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I am enough.

I fell for Brené almost immediately. Granted, I watched her TED lecture on vulnerability when I was an emotionally raw new mother. But I remember being smitten immediately when I heard her talk about holding our perfect little babies and telling them “you know what? You’re imperfect, and you’re wired struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging. And when I watched her second TED lecture about shame and heard her say that for women shame is “do it all, do it perfectly and never let them see you sweat,” I was hooked.

So when Katrina Pavlik suggested I write a blog for Breastfeed Chicago about Brené I said yes without a second thought. I was sure I’d have something to say that you’d want to hear.

And then I got stuck. I love Brené and find her work powerful. Her lectures and books speak to me like poems that I keep seeing in a new light as my own life evolves. But how could I make you see? Why should you care?

So I put the whole project on the back burner for a while.

Then one day my cousin posted this link to a podcast about women who felt let down by Ina May Gaskin and the natural birth movement. Women who really wanted a natural birth, who did all the right things and who were not able to have the birth they wanted. The comments section was a series of incredibly powerful stories of heartbreak, trauma, shame and resilience.

And as I was reading these stories something else fell into place for me. I’d been observing from the sidelines all the hoopla about that one formula commercial. (You know the one where the ugly stereotypes of moms and some dads lash out at each other until they chase a stroller down a hill to save a baby. I’m not going to link to it but you can easily google it.) And the question that nagged me was not whether it was pro-breastfeeding or anti-breastfeeding. It was this: why did this go viral? What emotional chord did it strike for people? Why on earth were people sharing this?

And that’s when I realized that the feeling the commercial was tapping into was not guilt about the choices we make – it was shame about who we are. Guilt is when we feel we’ve done something bad. Shame is when we believe we are bad. Guilt is “I made a mistake”. Shame is “I am a mistake”. When we feel shame we believe deep down that we are not enough and therefore are not worthy of love and belonging. And this commercial tapped into two huge shame triggers for women: our bodies and our babies.

Maybe some people shared the commercial to show how judging can be hurtful. But I think it was way more visceral than that. Shame is not about what other people say to you. It is about your own internal dialogue: what you say to yourself. I believe people shared this as a way to connect with others. As a way to say “See? I’m not the only one hurting. I’m not the only one failing here. I’m not the only one who’s not enough.”

And that’s when I realized that Brené and I had something important – urgent even – to say to all of you. Shame is a normal human emotion. The only people who don’t feel shame are psychopaths. Shame can also be enormously damaging and isolating. But there is a way forward and it’s called shame resilience.

There are basically two steps to shame resilience. The first is recognizing when you feel shame. Sometimes there are physical signs: your face turns red, your palms sweat, your neck feels tingly, you want to hide. For me the most telling sign is hearing my inner voice tell me I’m an idiot. Recognizing and naming shame is the first step to controlling it rather than letting it control you.

The second step is to reach out to tell your story to someone worthy of hearing it, who can stand with you in your struggle without running away and without judging. Maybe even someone who can share her own story of feeling the same way. Brené says that you are incredibly lucky if you have one or two people in your life that can stand with you in your shame.

I’ve been a moderator on Breastfeed Chicago for a few years now and I often struggle with what to say. It’s easy when someone is asking for information and we can connect them to the right page on kellymom or the number to infant risk. But solutions don’t always cut it. I need to keep reminding myself that behind many posts is a shame story, someone who feels like she is doing her best and she is failing, someone that needs my empathy more than my knowledge, someone who needs me to say “I know what it’s like and you are not alone.”

And maybe that’s the answer to these so-called “mommy wars.” We can practice courage, compassion and connection by telling our story to someone worthy of hearing it. We can support each other when we hear these stories by simply saying “I know, I’ve been there too and it sucks. And you know what? You’re imperfect, but you’re wired for struggle. You are worthy of love and belonging, mama, and you are enough.

Danit Schleman lives in Wicker Park with her husband, dog and 2 daughters (3 and 1) She works in Diversity and Inclusion for a Management Consulting firm and enjoys cooking and yoga in her (limited) spare time.

The Value of Breastfeeding Meetings in the Age of Social Networking

1 Feb

Dear nursing mama,

Q: Do you need to go to a meeting of Breastfeeding USA or La Leche League?

A: If you think you need to, then you do. If you think you do not need to, then you need to even more. A hospital class, I am sorry to tell you, is not the same thing at all. Of course, any way of getting information is good. But what you need, whether you know it or not, is a circle of women: experienced, less experienced, those who are giving back, those who are unsure about the whole breastfeeding thing, those who have had setbacks and are looking for answers, those who just want to be with other moms who won’t judge them. You need to be able to absorb by osmosis some of the philosophy that goes along with a breastfeeding relationship.

In the 1980’s, I wrote an article for La Leche League News, as it existed then, entitled: “La Leche League Meetings: Who Needs ‘Em?” At that time, La Leche League was going strong, but there were many moms who didn’t see the point to attending meetings to learn something that they assumed would come “naturally.” Many expected that their doctors would tell them all they needed to know. How wrong they were.

Most doctors were clueless about breastfeeding (it is not an illness). And breastfeeding does not come naturally to mothers who grow up in a bottle-feeding society.

Breastfeeding is deeply cultural. We live in a society that is barely tolerant of breastfeeding. The world-wide web does not replace that age-old circle of women helping women.

Here we are in 2015, and the moms of today are equipped with google and web md and can contact all their friends at once with a tap to a screen. Surely, with modern technology, we can access all information worth knowing. Surely, we are beyond the need to sit in a circle with other breastfeeding moms and their babies and toddlers. Aren’t we?

Trust me here: with your first baby, and even with your second and third, you don’t know what you don’t know. There are questions you would not even think to ask. You can prevent problems from even occurring if you have the information up front. And not only that.

When you become part of a breastfeeding support group, you develop relationships with the other moms over time. You encourage one another. Playgroups spring out of that, with the children growing together and the moms growing together in their confidence and their own mothering philosophy.

Breastfeeding is not just about getting that great breast milk into the baby. It is also about the relationship between mother and child that forms along the way. And that circle of women will show you that—in a way that no book or website can.

Couldn’t you just ask for help from professional lactation consultants or from Breastfeeding USA counselors as issues arise? Sure, many moms do. Along with that approach come preventable problems, last minute panic, unnecessary stress, and premature weanings. Why would you want that?

What will you get if you attend meetings? You will continue to learn something new each and every time. You will make friends with women who do not question your decision to nurse your child. You will develop confidence in yourself as a mother. You will pick up something that cannot be easily described, but that is very real: a sense of connection with these mothers and with mothers all around the world and throughout all of time—yes, just by sitting in a circle of women and sharing your questions and answers and love of breastfeeding. You will learn more than you could think to ask, and your heart will expand with the love that fills the room when mothers and their nursing babies gather together.

Please, give it a try. Go to some meetings, and tell me if I told you the truth.

Want to check out a breastfeeding support group? Click on this link to our Breastfeeding Support Group map to find a group near you: https://breastfeedchicago.wordpress.com/breastfeeding-support-groups/

 

Joy Davy, MS, LCPC, NCC is a counselor with a private practice in Hinsdale, Illinois. She can be reached at joydavy@joydavy.com. Her website ishttp://www.joydavy.com

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